The Cloud Nine Crochet Cowl


This is an incredibly easy crochet cowl pattern. It has a simple criss cross design that gives the cowl a lovely texture. And if you’re anything like me, I LOVE textured designs. This cowl literally makes you feel like you are on cloud nine! The XL Cotton from Hobby Lobby is an absolute dream. So soft and squishy! Once I saw it I knew I had to make something with it.

Another thing I love about this cowl is that it works up very quickly. I didn’t time it but if I remember correctly I think it took me about an hour and a half to make it. This cowl is worked in the round which is nice so you don’t have to sew anything together! A huge plus in my book.

This cowl is a great gift idea because who doesn’t love a squishy, warm hug around the neck?!

The Cloud Nine Cowl Pattern

Special stitches: Criss Cross Stitch- Yarn over, skip stitch, double crochet into next stitch. Yarn over, go behind previous double crochet and double crochet into the stitch you just skipped. Here are some pictures to clarify…

Photo below is yarn over, skip stitch, and double crochet into next stitch.

Cloud Nine Crochet Cowl

Photo below is yarn over, go behind previous double crochet and double crochet into skipped stitch.

Cloud Nine Crochet Cowl

This is what your finished criss cross stitch should look like.

Cloud Nine Crochet Cowl

Stitch Abbreviations: Single crochet=Sc|Double Crochet=Dc|Slip Stitch=Sl St|Skip Stitch=Sk St|Yarn Over=YO|Chain(s)=Ch(s)|Stitch(s)=St(s)

Materials needed:

  • 2 Skeins of XL Cotton from Hobby Lobby (100 yards)
  • Size M hook

Chain 48. *If you want a little bigger hole to slip over your head just add stitches in increments of 2* Join chain with a Sl St taking care not to twist your chain.

Row 1: Chain 1. Sc around. Join with a Sl St to first Sc. (48 sc)

Row 2: Ch 3. YO, Sk St, Dc into next stitch. YO, go behind previous Dc and Dc into the St you just skipped. Continue in this pattern until you reach your first Ch 3 Sts. YO, and Dc into the bottom of chain 3 sts. Sl St to top of first Dc. Refer to the picture below for where to put your last Dc. (25 dc’s including chain 3)

Cloud Nine Crochet Cowl

Repeat rows 1 and 2 until you reach the length you want. I stopped at 11 rows. End with a single crochet round then cut and weave in your ends. Hope you float away on Cloud Nine in your new cowl!

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The Cloud Nine Cowl

The Hexicomb Coaster-Free Crochet Pattern


I had tested a couple of patterns for a friend of mine on Instagram that had this honeycomb design on it. (If you want to check out her patterns her instagram handle is @kneedlesandlove.) Then I thought, it would be really cute to have matching honeycomb coasters to go with the kitchen towel and wash cloth!

That’s when the brain storming began. It took a couple of tries (ok, like 30) to come up with this simple hexagon shaped honeycomb pattern. Thus was born The Hexicomb Coaster. I just smooshed the two words together like people do with celebrity names.

Here are the supplies you’ll need to make these little Hexi-coasters!

  • Size 4 cotton
  • Size 3.75 hook (F)
  • Stitch marker

Abbreviations: Double crochet-(dc), Double crochet 2 together-(Dc2tog), Single crochet-(sc), Stitch(es)-st(s), Chain(s)-ch(s), Space(s)-sp(s), Skip-(sk)

Gauge: 9 dc by 5 rows= 2″

Special notes: Chain 3 does not count as a double crochet in the decrease rows.

The Hexicomb Coaster Pattern

Chain 16

Row 1: Sc into 2nd ch from hook and across until the end. Ch 3, turn.

Row 2: Dc into same st. *Ch 1, sk st, dc into next st. Repeat from * until the last st. 2 dc into last st. Ch 3, turn. (9 dc, 6 ch sps)

Coaster beg row 3

Row 3: Dc into same st. Ch 1, sk st, dc into next st. Dc into every st until last 2 sts. Ch 1, sk st, 2 dc into last st. Ch 3, turn. (15 dc, 2 ch sps)

Row 4: Dc into same st. Ch 1, sk st, dc into next st. Dc across until last 2 sts. Ch 1, sk st, 2 dc into last st. Ch 3, turn. (17 dc, 2 ch sps)

Row 5: Dc into same st. Ch 1, sk st, dc into next st. Dc across until last 2 sts. Ch 1, sk st, 2 dc into last st. Ch 3, turn. (19 dc, 2 ch sps)

Row 6: Dc into same st. Ch 1, sk st, dc into next st. Dc across until the last 2 sts. Ch 1, sk st, 2 dc into last st. (21 dc, 2 ch sps) CHAIN 4, turn. (Counts as dc and ch 1)

Row 7: Sk st, dc into ch sp. Dc across until the last 2 sts. Ch 1, sk st, dc into last st. Ch 3, turn. (21 dc, 2 ch sps)

Coaster beg row 7   Coaster end row 7

{You will now begin your decrease rows}

Row 8: Dc2tog, ch 1, sk ch 1 sp, dc into next st. Dc across until last 2 sts. Ch 1, sk ch 1 sp, Dc2tog. Ch 3, turn. (19 dc, 2 ch sps)

Coaster beg row 8  Coaster end row 8

Row 9: Dc2tog, ch 1, sk ch 1 sp, dc into next st. Dc across until last 2 sts. Ch 1, skip ch 1 sp, Dc2tog. Ch 3, turn. (17 dc, 2 ch sps)

Coaster Row 9  Coaster end row 9

Row 10: Dc2tog, ch 1, sk ch 1 sp, dc into next st. Dc across until last 2 sts. Ch 1, sk ch 1 sp, Dc2tog. Ch 3, turn. (15 dc, 2 ch sps)

Row 11: Dc2tog, ch 1, sk ch 1 sp, dc into next st. Dc across until last 2 sts. Ch 1, sk ch 1 sp, Dc2tog. Ch 3, turn. (13 dc, 2 ch sps)

Row 12: Dc2tog, *ch 1, sk st, dc into next st. Repeat from * until last 2 sts. Ch 1, sk ch 1 sp, Dc2tog. CHAIN 1, turn. (7 dc, 6 ch sps.)

Row 13: Sc across. Ch 1, Do Not turn. 

To finish your coaster, single crochet to the left around the edge of the and slip stitch to beginning of the round. Fasten off and weave in ends.

Coasters and coffee cup

Don’t forget to tag me in your makes using the hashtag #hexicombcoaster!

The Monet Velvet Cowl Free Crochet Pattern


When I saw this yarn at Hobby Lobby the other day I saw the heavens open up and little cherubs flew down from above with this heavenly, velvety yarn and gently placed it into my shopping cart.

Well, it might not have happened like that exactly but you get the general idea. This is the softest, most scrumptious yarn you will ever feel in your life. And you might think I am exaggerating until you feel it for yourself. Then you’ll be a believer.

The monet cowl free crochet pattern

What first drew me to velvety fiber was the watercolor-like color way of the yarn. It made me think of the painter Claude Monet and his water lily paintings. I love how many of his paintings seemed blurry as if you were looking at them through a wet, rainy window.

There are so many things I love about this cowl. I love that it has a knit look to it, it is not too heavy and it’s reversible! To name a few. It is simply made with front post single crochet stitches worked in the round. Here’s a close up of this beauty!

the Monet cowl free crochet pattern

Okay, let’s hop to it! Here is what you’ll need.

Special stitches: Front Post Single Crochet- (Fpsc) – Crochet stitches have two loops when made, one CLOSEST towards you (the back loop the white arrow is pointing at) and one FURTHER away from you (the front loop). You will be crocheting your single crochet stitches into the loop FURTHEST away from you. Here’s some pictures that will help. My scissors are pointing to the front loop that you will always be working in. The arrow is pointing at the back loop.

Front post single crochet

Push your hook through the front loop and single crochet as normal.

Free crochet pattern

Special Notes: When you slip stitch the beginning of each new row make sure you front post slip stitch.

Do not turn at the beginning of each new round.

The Monet Velvet Cowl Pattern

the Monet cowl free crochet pattern

Chain 120. Join ends together with a slip stitch being careful not to twist it. Place stitch marker. Chain 1. Do NOT turn.

*Pro tip!* An easy way to make sure that you haven’t twisted your chain is to do this: Pinch the end on your hook and the very end of your chains together so they form a circle. Moving away from your hook, run fingers along chain until you reach the other side. If it lines up right, then it is not twisted and then you can join your chain!

Round 1- Single crochet around until you come back to your stitch marker. Front post Slip stitch to top of beginning single crochet. Remove stitch marker from previous stitch and place on slipped stitch. Chain 1, Do NOT turn.

Round 2 and every round after worked as follows:

Chain 1. Front post single crochet into the next stitch and around until you reach your stitch marker. Join with a front post slip stitch where stitch marker is and then remove the stitch marker and place on the stitch of the new row.

Continue working in this pattern until you have reached the end of your skeins.

It’s really the most simplest cowl you can make. Good luck and I can’t wait to see which velvety yarn you choose! Don’t forget to tag me on Instagram using #themonetvelvetcowl.

Free Key Chain Crochet Pattern


I love creating simple things like this crochet key chain. It’s made by crocheting an I-cord which is super easy to do. I wanted a key chain for our mail box keys so they hopefully wouldn’t get lost.

Learning to make an I-cord is helpful because it has so many uses! You can make purse handles, tails for crocheted stuffed animals, bracelets. The possibilities are truly endless!

Here is what you’ll need:

  • “I love this cotton” or something similar in weight.
  • Scissors
  • Size 4.25 crochet hook.
  • Measuring tape

Crochet I-Cord Key Chain

Start by crocheting 4 chains.


Next, you will insert your hook into the second chain from the hook and pull up a loop. After that, insert your hook in the third chain and pull up a loop. Lastly, insert your hook into the final chain and pull up a loop. The I-cord should now look like the picture below.


Step 1: Slip the first three loop off your crochet hook making sure to leave the last loop on the hook. The first loop will always stay on the hook.

Crochet key chain 2

I found that pinching the loops you are not working with at the moment keeps them from coming out.

Step 2: Now you will pull up a loop through the first loop on you hook making sure to keep the working yarn behind the other loops like so.


Step 3: Then you insert your hook in the second loop and pull up a loop through the second loop.


Step 4: Insert your hook in the third loop and pull up a loop.


Step 5: Then insert your hook into the last loop and draw a loop through the final loop. Now your I-cord should look like this. It won’t start looking like an I-cord for a few more rounds.


Repeat steps 1-5 until your I-cord reaches 6 1/2 inches or until it slips comfortably over your hand.


This is how it should be looking after several rounds.

Finishing off

To finish the I-cord, pull a loop through all the loops. Pull up one more loop and then, leaving about a 4 inch tail, cut the yarn.


Tie the ends together. Don’t worry about making it look nice because we are going to cover the knots with more yarn.

Cut 8, 8 inch pieces of yarn. You are going to tie an overhand knot over the spot where you tied the ends together.


See the little hole in the picture above? Put your thumb and index finger through the hole and pinch both sets of yarn fringe.



Then pull all of the yarn through the hole and gently pull until tight. You might have to pull a couple of individual strands to get it completely tight.


You can cut the fringe to all the same length or leave it as is. Whatever floats your boat.

Crochet key chain

Now go grab your keys and put the key ring through the middle of the I-cord so that it stays in one place. Then the keys won’t slide down the fringe and look funky.

And there you have it. Hope you enjoy your new I-cord key chain!


Free Crochet Pitcher Cover Pattern


Bugs falling into your drink? Tired of having to shoo those pesky gnats away? Well, we’ve got you covered!Ha ha ha!! That’s my little old timey slogan for my new crochet pitcher cover. Lame I know but I couldn’t help myself. Summer is here and so are the bugs! Having bugs crawl/fly into my drinks is not something I look forward to.

So when I saw a crochet pitcher cover in a magazine the other day I had to jump on that train.The one I saw in the magazine was made from a piece of fabric and then had beads crocheted around the edges of it (if you can picture that with me) but I thought I could easily crochet the entire cover. So I did! At first it was hard finding a pattern that didn’t have any holes. Most granny squares work up really quickly because they have gaps between the stitches but I was able to find a pattern that didn’t have holes. Score!

Here are the materials that you will need:

  • Size 4 cotton yarn (or something similar in weight) I used Hobby Lobby’s “I Love This Cotton”
  • 4 mm crochet hook. (Size G)
  • Scissors
  • 6 heavy beads (preferably with large holes)
  • Tapestry needle

Stitches to know before you make:

  • Magic ring
  • Slip stitch (slst)
  • Chain (ch)
  • Single crochet (sc)
  • Double Crochet (dc)
  • Round (Rnd)

Note: Every stitch will be written out the first time it is mentioned and then abbreviated after that.

Special Stitches:

The Magic ring.

  1. Wrap yarn clockwise around your finger 2 times to form a ring.
  2. Holding yarn and tail between left thumb and middle finger, insert hook into ring, grab the working yarn and pull through the ring.
  3. Chain the number of times needed to begin first round (you’ll need to chain 3 for this pattern)
  4. Work additional stitches into ring to finish the first round.
  5. BEFORE joining the first round, gently pull the beginning tail to cinch up the ring. 1 of the 2 strands will tighten while the other does not.
  6. Pull the tight ring until the loose one is tight and then finish cinching the ring by pulling the yarn tail.

Now make this pitcher cover quick before any bugs get in there!

Crochet Pitcher Cover Pattern

The Crochet Pitcher Cover is almost 5 inches across. It’s measures 4 and 3/4.

Start with a magic ring.

Round 1: Chain 3 (counts as double crochet now and throughout), 11 dc into ring, join with a slip stitch to the top of ch 3. (12 dc)

Rnd 2: Ch 3, 3 dc in the next dc, *dc in the next dc, 3 dc in the next dc; repeat from * 4 more times, join with a slst to the top of ch 3. (23 dc)

Rnd 3: Ch 1, single crochet in the same stitch, ch 1, skip 1 dc, (sc, ch 2, sc) in the next dc, ch 1, skip 1 dc, *sc in the next dc, ch 1, skip 1 dc, (sc, ch 2, sc) in the next dc, ch 1, skip 1 dc; repeat from * around, join with slst to first sc. (18 sc, 25 ch)

Rnd 4: Ch 3, dc in next ch 1 space, dc in the next sc, 3 dc in the next ch 2 space, dc in the next sc, dc in the next ch 1 space, *dc in the next sc, dc in the next ch 1 space, dc in the next sc, 3 dc in the next ch 2 space, dc in the next sc, dc in ch 1 space; repeat from * around, join with a slst to top of ch 3. (48 dc)

Rnd 5: Ch 1, sc in the same stitch, * ch 1, skip 1 dc, sc in next dc, ch 1, skip 1 dc, (sc, ch 2, sc) in he next dc, (ch 1, skip 1 dc, sc in the next dc) 2 times; repeat from * around, omitting last sc, join with slst to top of ch 1. (37 ch, 30 sc)

Rnd 6: Ch 3, dc into sc, dc into ch 1 space, dc into sc, dc into ch 1 space, 3 dc into ch 3 space. *Dc into ch 1 space, dc into sc, dc into ch 1 space, dc into sc, dc into ch 1 space, dc into sc, dc into ch 1 space, 3 dc into ch 3 space repeat from * around, join with slst to top of ch 3.

Rnd 7: *Ch 5, skip 1 dc, sc into next dc, ch 16, skip 7 dc, sc into next dc; repeat from * around, join with a slst to beginning of chain 5. Fasten off.

Woo Hoo! You finished the crochet pitcher cover. Take that you nasty bugs! Ha ha ha! *coughs* Oh um, sorry. Anywho, now it’s time to add your beads.

The beads I used were from an old key chain stretchy. They are really cool clay beads and I had been saving them to try to salvage them again in some way and so I used them for this pattern!I cut a 6 inch piece of the same yarn and folded it in half. Then used my crochet hook to pull and over hand knot through the longest chain space on the pitcher cover.

Crochet Pitcher Cover

Crochet Pitcher Cover

Crochet Pitcher Cover

Before you try adding the beads, twist the yarn together between your fingers to get it really tight and small. Then you should be able to push the yarn through. I had to use my crochet hook to push the last little bit through sometimes.

Crochet Pitcher Cover

Pull the bead up close to the crochet chains and then tie an over hand knot to hold the bead on. Then cut off excess yarn.

Crochet Pitcher Cover

Yay! Now you have a really cute way to keep the bugs out of your pitcher!

Crochet Pitcher Cover

Crochet Pitcher Cover

If you want to check out some of my other free patterns, I have one for Crochet Tea Towels and Washcloths! Thanks for stopping by!

Free Crochet Tea Towel Pattern


I did a giveaway with a gal on Instagram (you can follow me @oneyellowfeatherco!) where she made place mats that matched my crochet tea towels!

Crochet tea towels and place mats

That was the first collaboration I had ever done so I was pretty proud of myself for having had the courage to put myself and my work out there!

This is a very simple crochet tea towel topper and is perfect for beginners. You’ll be pleased with how your tea towels are fantastically transformed.

Like with my Crochet Wash Cloths, I used “I love this cotton!” from Hobby Lobby. And named rightly so because this cotton yarn is very soft and isn’t stiff like other cotton yarns.

Here’s what you’ll need:

  • 4.25mm crochet hook
  • Cute Tea Towels
  • I love this cotton! yarn (or another similar cotton)
  • Matching embroidery thread
  • Needle

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The first thing I did was iron out any of the wrinkles in the tea towel. That way it will nice and flat when you hang it up. And it will be easier to add the blanket stitch to the top. Fold your tea towel in 3rd’s. (My tea towel was about 6 and 1/2 inches wide when folded this way.) You’re ready to begin your blanket stitch.

If you don’t know how to do a blanket stitch, don’t be intimidated! It is a lot easier than I thought it as going to be at first. You can watch this little video I made to get you started! It’s my first tutorial ever and I’m so proud of it!

Now that you have your blanket stitch on your tea towels it’s time to grab your yarn.

Crochet tea towel topper

With the 4.25 mm hook, join your yarn to the right side of your tea towel with a slip stitch. Chain 1 and single crochet across the top placing one single crochet for every blanket stitch. Chain 1. Turn.

*Single crochet 2 together, single crochet across until last 2 stitches, single crochet 2 together, chain 1, turn. Continue from * until your topper has 7 stitches across the top.

Continue with 7 single crochet stitches until the topper is long enough to reach around your oven handle. (Mine was 17 rows.) Now you will make your button-hole.

Single crochet in the next 2 stitches, Chain 3, single crochet in the last 2 stitches. Chain 1, turn.

Single crochet across the top of the button-hole so it looks like this.


Single crochet 2 more rows. Fasten off.

Then join with a slip stitch to where you began your stitches and single crochet around the edge of the towel topper. This will give it a nice finished look.


Aren’t they awesome?! Since I’m not there to do it, give yourself a high-five!

I hope you enjoyed making these crochet tea towels as much as I did! If you want to check this set of tea towels you can take a little looky in my etsy shop here! 10% of the proceeds are donated to Voice of the Martyrs. An organization that helps supports persecuted Christians in hostile countries.

Free Pattern Tea Towels Crochet

Until next time, cheers!

Free Crochet Wash Cloth Pattern


I recently asked my peeps on Instagram if they would like a post about a crochet wash cloth pattern and there was a resounding yes! So after I got my Etsy shop up and running I decided to give my blog some love again and get down to writing.

I usually try to pick patterns that are simple (two, at the most 3 different stitches) because when you have a 4-year-old is asking for a snack and 20-month-old who is trying to climb onto your lap while you are crochet is difficult, let me tell ya.

The stitch for this crochet wash cloth is kind of like a griddle stitch or crumple stitch. It is just switching back and forth between a short stitch and a taller one. And I love the design that comes from it.

Free wash cloth pattern

Special note!

You should begin every row with a single crochet and end with a half double crochet. So when you are crocheting your single crochet stitch it should be on top of a half double crochet stitch from the previous row and vice versa.

What you’ll need:

5mm hook

I really like this cotton yarn and is, rightly named, “I Love This Cotton!” from Hobby Lobby. Other cotton yarns I have felt are stiff and rough but this is the softest kind I have felt outside of a specialty store. Because all real yarn lovers judge a good yarn first by how it feels then by how it looks. Because let’s face it, yarn can look really pretty but then feel like your wearing Velcro.

PeriwinkleNow without further ado…

Crochet Wash Cloth Pattern

I made this the size of a baby wash cloth but you could make it bigger if you want. Just use multiples of 2+1.

Foundation Chain: Chain 33.

Row 1: Single Crochet into 2nd chain from hook. *Half double crochet into next stitch then Single Crochet into next stitch. Repeat from * until the end of the row alternating stitches. Last stitch should be a HDC. Chain 1. Turn.

Row 2: *Single Crochet in first stitch then Half Double Crochet in next. Repeat from * to the end of the row.

Continue in this pattern for 28 rows.

Row 28: After you chain 1, DO NOT turn but single crochet around the edge of the wash cloth. Weave in end.

And you’re done! Super easy right?! I love how they turned out. The single crochet edge really finishes it off and will keep it from losing it’s shape.

Free crochet wash cloth pattern

My philosophy is the easy and more simple the better. Because you can’t really screw it up. And if you do, then you should probably let someone else do it. Kidding!! But, if I made anything unclear or strangely weird then feel free to email me or say so in the comments below!

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3 Truths I Am Teaching My Kids That I Need to Learn Too.


As a parent, I want my kids to be good. My husband and I teach them manners, to be kind to others, to clean up after themselves and to act like Jesus.

Unfortunately, I think as a parent I fall short in one area that is most critical to my children learning all of these lessons.

Modeling all of these things myself. *gulping sound*.

My children are looking at me and my husband for how to live their lives. Even if they don’t know it. This is an incredibly scary thing for me because some of you may not know it but I’m not perfect.

I know. Shocking. But the truth had to come out sometime.

I am still very much working on these lessons. I ask God every day to teach me to be like His Son. And it is in the daily dying to self that these truths are hard to live out.

So buckle up and get ready for some truth bombs!


3 Truths Post

Truth #1: They don’t hear your words when you shout.

On an outing one day, my older son was telling my younger son to stop screaming in the car because it was hurting his ears. Before I could tell my younger son to stop screaming my older son shouts, “STOP SCREAMING!”. I thought, that probably doesn’t help your cause there, big guy.

I had to pull over so I could safely explain to my oldest son that his younger brother can’t hear his words when he screams at him to stop.

Then it hit me.

Have I done that? Have I raised my voice to get my child’s attention only to have them not hear a word I’ve said? I also thought to myself, do I really listen when my child is talking or am I distracted by my phone or busy doing something “important”.

What could be more important than my child feeling loved by me because I am giving them my full and complete attention? I’m pretty sure whatever I am doing can wait two seconds so my son can tell me all about how he packed up his tricycle for the beach. Or ask me a question if gorillas are nice or not. Uh…go ask your father.

Do I model good listening skills in front them?

Do I look people in the eye when they are talking to me? Do I interrupt when people are talking? Do I whisper to my neighbor while a speaker is talking?

These things don’t come naturally to me and it takes work to learn good listening skills. So I try to practice listening well when others are talking so they know they are valued. And hopefully I will have passed on important life skill that will be incredibly helpful in my children’s futures.

Truth #2: Getting mad doesn’t change your situation

Oh, if I could only get this one right!

I very often find myself quickly getting mad over something I have no control over. And when I see my oldest son doing the same thing I cringe.

I understand that some people tend to have a harder time letting things go or letting things not get to them. Like they just seem to be naturally predisposed to situations or people making them mad.

Well, I hate to break it to ya but getting mad won’t change the situation.

My son will be yelling and crying in his room that his blocks won’t stay up. So he gives up and won’t try to make things work. I come in and ask him if he would like help. He explains to me that he is mad because he can’t make the blocks work for him. I ask him if getting mad will make the blocks stay up. He says no. Then I ask him again if he would like me to help him stand the blocks up. He says yes.

I try to teach him to problem solve instead of immediately getting frustrated with his situation.

I have to remind myself of this over and over and over again.

That I need to take a step back and think about the situation. Then see if you can figure out an alternative. Because, again, getting mad won’t change anything.

It won’t make that person in front of me go faster. It won’t give me everything me jealous heart wants. It won’t change another person’s bad intentions towards me. It won’t change my child’s attitude.

So when I feel myself getting frustrated with a situation (or my children!) I try to take a deep breath and ask God for His wisdom in how to handle the whatever is happening. Another post I wrote titled, “Why don’t I have any peace?” is another good reminder for myself about what to do when anger starts creeping up into my life.

And last of all…

Truth #3: Be patient, they are still learning.

“How many times do I have to tell you?” is a line I had heard so many times growing up. And I never thought I’d say it because it drove me crazy.

You would think that if I didn’t want to hear it I wouldn’t keep doing whatever it was I was doing, right? Are you confused yet? “Mom brain” means half the time I don’t even know what I’m saying. *nervous laugh*


My older son constantly gets after his younger brother for doing something he’s asked him not to do. Like not to hit or taking something without saying please.

While I do my best to intervene when I can, I also like to see sometimes how my older son will handle it. Will he hit his younger brother or will he ask him not to do that? Will he ask his younger brother to say please or will he tattle that his brother didn’t ask first?

This is kind of hit and miss depending on the mood of each child that day.

Again, this is something I had to ask myself if I was modeling for them.

Do I get annoyed that my son wipes his hands on his shirt for the umpteenth time that day instead of on his napkin? Do I get frustrated when they get water all over the counter after they use the restroom? Do I get worn out and cranky from all the whiny, weeping children around me?

Yes, yes and yes.

But the most important thing is…

I’m working on it.

I have in no way mastered all of these truths. But I acknowledge them. I see my flaws and I am choosing to correct them. Working on being more patient is a daily process.

After writing this long-winded post, it makes me think of James 1:19. “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.”

All of what I just said summed up nicely in one paragraph. So simple to read yet sometimes so difficult to live out. Can I get a witness?

Some days, I look at my kid’s actions and think, “Yikes, do I do that?” Then other days, my oldest son will bring me a coaster to place my drink near me where I can reach and I think to myself, “God, thank you so much for granting me mercy and allowing me to be the one to teach these wonderful human beings how to be more like your Son every day.”

Thanks for reading.

Following God’s pattern. (Even when it doesn’t make sense)


I am loving the triangle scarves that I have been seeing lately and I always like trying to tackle a new pattern. I found a simple, pretty pattern from Hopeful Honey and I thought this is the one.

So I immediately went to work and noticed that my triangle was becoming lop-sided. I ripped it out and started again. The more rows I finished I again noticed that my stitches were becoming crooked. Ugh!

Ripped the stitches out. Again.

Try again a third time and still my stitches are creating a weird wave to the long end of my triangle.

I had been “following the pattern” but adding some different stitches here and there to each end trying to correct the authors “mistakes”. Well, that wasn’t working it was only making thing worse.

For the final time, I rip out my stitches and start following the exact number of stitches and in the places that I was told to put them.

Then things start happening. The scarf starts looking like what was pictured in the author’s pattern. In my attempts to fix the creators pattern my product was turning out all wonky because I thought I knew better than the author.

I can’t count how many times I have tried to manipulate situations because I thought I knew better than God. Or I sit and complain that God is not listening or isn’t loving because He is not giving me what I want when I want it.

There are many instances in the bible where the protagonist moves ahead of God’s timing only to screw things up in the process. We will never know the original outcome God had intended because men and women thought they knew better. One thing is for sure though. In the stories where they stepped ahead of God’s timing there are painful, lifelong consequences because of it.

One person comes to mind from the bible that hadn’t followed God’s original plan at first but started trusting God more and more a time went on.

Following God's Pattern


Abraham and Sarah moved ahead of God’s timing and there were harsh consequences for Hagar and Ishmael. But since Ishmael was still Abraham’s son, his people became a great nation as well, just not the people group that Jesus would come from.

God kept His promise to Abraham and Sarah and gave them Isaac.

When Isaac was a young boy God told Abraham to take Isaac up to a mountain top and sacrifice him there. I won’t get into the whole sacrificing thing because that is a huge topic that I don’t have time to discuss that in this post.

Abraham’s great faith is to be admired. Hebrews 11:19 says that “Abraham reasoned that God could even raise the dead, and so in a manner of speaking he did receive Isaac back from death.” (NIV)

What incredible faith!! As a parent, I cannot even begin to fathom the faith that it took to walk up onto the mountain with his only son Isaac and attempt to sacrifice him there.

I have heard many times that God can see the whole scope of time on the earth and knows every event that will happen. Even so, He asks us to carry out impossible feats in His power not because he needs to prove to Himself that He can do it.

God wants to use unlikely people for the glory of His name. Abraham was 100 years old for crying out loud when they had Isaac!

I think that faith requires a great amount of humility because we have to rely completely and totally on God to carry out the plans that He has called us to do. In order to do this, we have to humbly admit that we cannot not do anything without the power of God in us.

I am trying to learn to accept God’s pattern for how to live my life even when it doesn’t make sense. I can try to fit God in to the plan that I think is the best way to go or I can learn to humbly accept the mission that He has called me to however trifling that might be. Because in the end, if it is all for the glory of God, that work will never be small.

I feel that if I can rely on God with even the smallest amount of faith that Abraham had then I will learn how to face each and every challenge with peace.

Following God’s pattern through the most difficult circumstances will bring glory to His name. And, in the end, that’s all that really matters.

3 Reflections on the Life of Amy Carmichael


Big J and I finished listening to Amy Carmichael the other day and I am still blown away by her life. Little D listens too but he can’t offer any input yet. 😉

Amy Carmichael was an Irish girl living in Belfast, Ireland in the late 1800’s. She was a spirited young lady and got herself into trouble one night after concocting the idea to stay up after curfew.

There was a comet traveling through the sky that night and she didn’t want to miss it. It turns out her teachers and principal didn’t want to miss it either so she and her roommates got caught.

She was a typical person, living life for herself, when there came a pivotal moment that would thrust her into living her life fully for God.

3 reflections on the life of Amy Carmichael

She was walking home from church one day and she saw a homeless woman struggling to walk in the snow. Her and her siblings went over to help her but she was embarrassed about it. But during the time helping the homeless woman, she heard a voice say “Gold and silver. Hay and stubble.” She knew this was a passage from the bible talking about how our works here on earth will be tested with fire in the end.

In that instant she wasn’t embarrassed anymore. She held her head high and was proud to be able to help the woman.

She went home after that and looked up the verse in the bible. She found the words she had heard in 1 Corinthians 3:13. …”each ones work will become clear; for the Day will declare it, because it will be revealed by fire, and the fire will test each one’s work, of what sort it is.” She decided from that moment on she would do what God had called her to do regardless of what other people thought.

Her life from there lead her to England, China, Japan and finally India. Amy helped about 140 men, women and Indian children find refuge in her home in India. Most of whom she helped were little Indian girls. Little girls were brought to her instead of being offered to the gods to become temple prostitutes.

She died peacefully in her sleep at age 83 and was buried in the family cemetery called God’s garden. She had no head stone just a bird bath placed over where she was laid and the word “Amma” inscribed on it. The Indian word for mother.

These are some of the things I came away with after listening to her story…

Not all Christians are on the same path you are.

This one is kind of hard for me to grasp. If Christians are at the same place at the same time they should be doing to same work, right? This is wishful thinking on my part.  I also feel this was Amy’s thinking as well because she was confused by other Christians not wanting to do work for God. There would be a need and the groups of Christians that Amy was with would just shrug their shoulders when they couldn’t think of anyone to help those in need.

God can only do His work through me if I allow Him to. He can only use as much of me as I give Him. And when He is calling me to do His work and I can’t get upset or frustrated that He isn’t making others around me to do the same work.

Just like He doesn’t force me to do His bidding I can’t force others to do His work. I don’t know what God is teaching you, unless you tell me, so I can’t expect us to be doing the same work.

God will provide

I know this seems ridiculous to point out or even talk about but I feel we need to remind ourselves of this. God. Will. Provide. And miraculously.

If God has a work for you to do then He will make it happen. Against all odds. I was reminded of the verse in James that says, “You do not receive, because you ask amiss, that you may spend it on your pleasures.” (James 4:3 NKJV)

How many times have I asked God for something because it was just something I wanted? How many times do I ask for something that has nothing to do with the work that He is calling me to do?

Again, I can’t speak for everyone, but I can see what prayers God answers and which ones he doesn’t manifested in the lives of those who pray to Him.

When Amy asked God for something that would help take care of others, God provided. Amy wanted to build a building for the factory girls where she lived. She had been meeting with them at her church but the congregation began to complain to the pastor that the lowlifes were meeting in their church. When the pastor wouldn’t listen, annoyed congregants started complaining to Amy. So Amy began to ask God for money for a building for them to meet in instead of her church.

Amy trusted God to provide and He did. God provided the money and the land for the building. God provided in many other ways exactly what Amy needed because it was to help bring others to Him.

Lastly, her life is one I want to emulate

We have examples in the bible of great men and women of faith but I think I have fallen prey to the idea that that was then and this is now. That God somehow changed how He works just because we, as a society, have changed. But I am reminded through the example of Amy and other Christians in the more recent years that God still works in dramatic ways if we let Him. And maybe in some more subtle ways than we realize but that’s for another post.

Obviously, Jesus is our perfect example of the faith that we should have but I also take encouragement in the lives of other believers examples as well.

Amy Carmichael was a single woman all of her life because she cared more about serving God than finding a husband. How I wish I had listened, really listened, when I was single and wanting to be married so badly. I wondered how many opportunities I missed because all I cared about was looking for “the one”.

She also cared more about serving God than what anyone else thought. How much time do I waste thinking about what others are thinking about me or how they are treating me when I could be throwing myself into God’s work. What could I be accomplishing for Him?

I have several more audio books of the books, “Christians Heroes: Then & Now” and I can’t wait to hear their stories of how God worked in their lives. I want to live the kinds of lives that these believers did and I gladly call them my Heroes. I am excited to listen to what heroic things that God called them to do. And I pray that I am up for the same challenge.

Thanks for reading and I hope you look more into the life of Amy Carmichael for yourself!

Who has been really inspiring to you? Tell me in the comments below!